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Why is it so hard for strong, high-achieving women to attract deep, fulfilling love? If you’ve ever asked yourself this, you’re not alone. You’ve built a life you’re proud of—career, success, independence.
But when it comes to love, something isn’t clicking.
π You keep attracting emotionally unavailable men.
π Relationships feel
like hard work, rather than effortless connection.
π You’re constantly
leading, planning, making things happen—even in dating.
π Deep down, you wonder, "Where is the man who truly sees, values, and leads with me?"
Here’s the truth: It’s NOT your fault. But there’s something blocking you from receiving the deep, committed love you desire.
π And it starts with your energy.
Providing for yourself - education, career, the lifestyle that you want comes with a frequency that taps you into a masculine provider energy. However, in the personal life it can have you too rigid, not feminine, combative, emasculating with your words. Thus turning him off, seeing a mood switched and being oblivious to what you said, did or looked to cause this.
I remember when I first heard about emasculating a man, I thought it was only if I go upset, yelled or said something hurtful, but the more I delved into it, I found that it was much much more and simpler than I ever could have imagined. So much, that once my eyes were opened to it, I could not unsee it.
Women emasculating men, was everywhere. It was on reality TV (obviously), movies, commercials to the point, that its almost impossible for us to not learn how to do this.
We wanted equality, to break the chains as women from our ancestors and to have the freedom to own, create and establish. Now, like many You’re a leader in your career. You take charge. You make things happen. Now the very thing that strengthens us in one aspect of our lives, pulls us into a weaker, swampier feminine. This ultimately blocks her from receiving love, since she is the one always showing up, providing and doing things.
But when this “go-getter” mode stays ON in your personal life, it creates an imbalance in your feminine energy.
β You’re always the one
leading the conversation, planning the dates, making the moves.
β You feel like you have to
prove your worth in relationships.
β You might even notice men pull away—or become passive around you.
π The Shift: Feminine energy is about receiving, allowing, and trusting.
If you’re always leading, planning, and controlling the dates, it doesn’t leave space for a man to step up and lead. You may even feel you are showing up like his mother. Wondering why he isn't strong enough, smart enough or can keep up with you.
π What to do instead: Start by practicing the art of receiving. Say YES when someone offers help. Let him plan something for once. Notice how it feels to lean back instead of control everything.
Our childhood and how each parental figure shows up in our lives has a very big impact here. You may have grown up where each parent showed love differently - one more disciplinary and the other caring. This can send very mixed signals leading you to find emotionally unavailable partners.
This also stems from mother wounds, if one or both biological parents were absent, the defense mechanism to protect yourself from getting hurt creates an energetic pattern to attract unavailable men. If you’ve been ‘doing it all alone’ for years, you may unconsciously attract men who need YOU to lead everything.
π The Shift: Healing these patterns is about self-awareness + deep subconscious clearing.
If you’ve been “doing it all alone” for years, your energy has unconsciously adapted to attract partners who reinforce that story. You CAN rewrite it.
π What to do instead: Energy healing, shadow work, and subconscious clearing are KEY here. When you heal the root, your relationships shift naturally.
Often times our success and how well we can do is the only thing you can control. This includes your physical and working out, eating right. We subconsciously block out the pain by distracting into an imbalanced "hustle mentality" to be successful.
This means creating the lifestyle that you want - the trips, facials, mani, pedi, fine dining, clothes, home decor to meet your needs. Bringing the peace, serenity that is voided from the absence of a true connection.
This need to protect your heart, creates a subconscious belief that being soft or feminine is weak. You may even humph at the idea of emasculating a man by being real. At times, you feel he's just being soft and are just over it based on their inability to keep up. So to be vulnerable is so far removed that you often miss how its the actual key to a deep connection.
π The Shift: Vulnerability is not weakness. It’s your superpower.
π What to do instead: Start noticing where you resist help, love, or intimacy. When a good man tries to show up for you, do you let him? Or do you push him away, even subtly?
This may all feel tragic and that there is no cure to this. Especially in a hookup culture. However, we as women have the power. The men know this. They see our value - especially when we are ready to receive. The keys to this are in the steps below:
Step 1: Rebalance Feminine & Masculine Energy
β Let go of
always leading.
β Say YES to receiving.
β Allow yourself to
be pursued instead of chasing.
Try this: The next time someone offers to help you, instead of saying, “I got it,” simply say… “Thank you.” See how it feels.
Step 2: Heal the Unconscious Wounds Blocking Love
β Your
love life = a mirror of your inner world.
β To shift your patterns, you must
clear them at the root.
β Energy healing & deep subconscious work accelerate this process FAST.
Try this: Ask yourself, “What love story am I repeating? And am I ready to change it?”
Step 3: Learn to Trust & Let Go of Control
β Love flows when you’re open to receiving it.
β Trust is the ultimate feminine energy magnet.
β The right man won’t need to be “fixed”—he will show up READY.
Try this: When dating, instead of proving yourself, just observe. See how he shows up for you without you leading.
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