Stop explaining the how and/or why you think or behave in a certain way. It is important that you look through the eyes of your spirit, the real and true you. For this is what it truly means to live not of this world. For there is thought first, then action. Connecting this with relationships, When the spirits of two people are not aligned will be an action that results of this world.
Learn to know you more and manifest the greatness and power within you and you will become and have the life that you so wish to achieve.