Stop explaining the how and/or why you think or behave in a certain way. It is important that you look through the eyes of your spirit, the real and true you. For this is what it truly means to live not of this world. For there is thought first, then action. Connecting this with relationships, When the spirits of two people are not aligned will be an action that results of this world.
So to be true to yourself and with God, you must know and understand things on the spirit level whole and completely. Thus resulting on “how” we relate to other people. So when they say toxic relationships, it goes very deep. To go deep, you must understand where the core of the problem truly lies.
The root/core of the problem lies within the spirit. If he or she has not evolved then the door is closed to the word of God, done through your Crown Chakra, then light is not received, resulting in closed/blocked energy sources locked off from God, light and and energy from the spirit world. Thus leaving you separated from the light and fully submerged in this world. Evidently, resulting in confusion, turmoil, worry and more manifested stress that is cultivated from the detachment from your true inner/higher self that is with really with God.
So now a person is like a robot, popping around waiting to be programmed, disconnected from the truth and your inner essence. Hence the reason for gov’t and religion, the need for control and design of a system for us to follow. The system has identified the false sense of our existence and has found ways to close us off from the truth, resulting in chaos – our world today.
So on a small scale level, two people can’t have a strong functional relationship because they don’t know who they truly are in a spirit form. Their true inner being as commercially stated, your inner self. We learn a programmed world version and bob around with decisions based on experiences in a false reality from a disconnect, instead of truth.
Profound, So to be en-lighted and know ones true self is to use the divinity the sources knowledge and guidance with experiences of the spirit within one’s self to cultivate a true experience/life and relationship with a person.
Learn to know you more and manifest the greatness and power within you and you will become and have the life that you so wish to achieve.